Ultimate quote"I don't think you failed at UC because your baby didn't make it."
That's a real quote from my favorite homebirth board. Allow me to disagree:
Actually, you DID fail, in the most spectacular, self absorbed and irresponsible way possible. Birth, like any aspect of caring for a child, is not a piece of performance art; it is just one aspect of a deep and abiding responsibility to put the well being of your child above all else. When your baby dies because you chose UC, not only did you fail at childbirth, you failed at parenting. Own that failure, take responsibility for it and let others know that UC kills babies.
There is a new thread on the board entitled "It drives me insane". The poster is decrying the fact that some doctors recommend a C-section for babies who are estimated to weigh over 10 pounds. When I read the first post, I expected responses that would question the scientific evidence for inducing babies to prevent shoulder dystocia. I was utterly shocked to see this:
... DD was 10 lbs-- when I went in at the beginning of my second pregnancy they tried to schedule me a c-section right then and there to prevent a "too big baby". Uhm, how bout NO!What's shocking about that? She does not mention that her daughter died because of shoulder dystocia at UC. Her doctor is recommending a C-section because women who have a severe shoulder dystocia in one pregnancy are at much greater risk for having the same thing happen again in a subsequent pregnancy.
Women who are contemplating UC or even homebirth, need to be incredibly wary of taking recommendations from women who consider vaginal delivery more important than the life of the own child. Their self-absorption, in the abstract, before the baby is born, is appalling. However, many of these women are suffering from lack of knowledge or denial. They simply don't understand or believe that their baby could die.
It is incomprehensible that after a baby's death from shoulder dystocia, UC advocates, without the least bit of self consciousness or shame, could mock efforts to prevent death from shoulder dystocia.
edited @11:42 AM
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